Self-Love
Self-love
I believe that getting to know yourself can be pivotal in the process of healing. Truly going within to uncover all of the beautiful messy traits that contribute to your energy. The deeper you go, the more authentic you’re able to show up not only for yourself, but also for those around you. I almost like to think of it as an onion. Peeling back layers of hurt and unconscious trauma to reveal the unscathed piece of your soul- your immortal diamond. This is the person you were made to be before you were even born. Edify yourself in this learning.
One of the most profound teachings I’ve practiced is going back in memory and giving that inner child the love and affection she deserved growing up. The more intentional I became about this process, the less hurt was felt. Releasing what no longer serves you feels like a cleansing of sorts. Healing is no overnight gig. It’s also not linear. One day you’re five steps ahead and the next day you’ve fallen behind. This is the natural ebb and flow of life. I actually don’t believe in the “positivity push” culture we are living in. It leaves no space for sadness or anger or adversity for that matter. I believe life is about welcoming feelings and giving space for them to hold real estate in your mind(or body), for whatever duration of time is needed for healing. There is no direct timeframe to overcome grief. Swimming in the mud is a strenuous task but it builds strength too. It all depends on your perspective.
Every time we go back and heal we expand our heart’s capacity to love again. To feel deeply, though there’s always risk in love. Take the risk of emotional exposure because there is no such thing as failure, just growth. Believe that you are worth it, because you are. Believe in the blessings you’ve been given. Believe in the faith of knowing that you will always be okay. Believe in yourself. Look back and marvel at all the beauty you cultivated for yourself.
Love prevails no matter the circumstance-it all begins with you.
By. Lauren Pacheco
