Safety

How do you process a break up? Divorce? Friendship fallout? Loss of a loved one?

Grief can be incredibly turbulent. It can feel like a distortion of reality caught between love and anger, denial even. How does one forgive themself for not knowing the truth? For believing in hope and in faith. Heartache is the foundational pillar to teaching a lesson about internal strength. It’s a choice to keep fighting for what is important; for what is right. Standing in your truth can be a bit scary. The cost to rebuild what was once lost seems impossibly high. Forgiveness doesn’t always require access and can often get misconstrued with reconciliation. You can still love a person and choose to be separate from their life. Protect your peace.

Pruning a flower means selectively removing pieces of it that impede on its natural growth. This process makes space for a healthier version to sprout, roots to solidify, and allows for something beautiful to bloom. Sometimes getting rid of old patterns, items and even people are life’s version of pruning. Waiting for something to blossom takes patience, effort and intention. Goodness only grows where you water it. This healing season feels long and uncomfortable and there are many days I feel like giving up.  However, I don’t want to stop fighting for the love I know I deserve. I still really believe that the right kind of love heals. It paves the way for emotional safety and security, for spiritual connection to deepen, to soften. 

In this period of transition, I’m fully embracing all the obstacles in front of me. Even through all of the tears, I can appreciate the slow progression towards becoming the woman I most desire. I’ve worked really hard to uncover this version of myself. I’ve fought cycles, false narratives and rebuilt my self-worth from the ground up. I can look back and marvel at the climb to “authenticity freedom.” The liberation and inner peace that comes from living in alignment with my true self. 

You are the author of your own life. Be genuine and real and face the world by taking off the mask of perfection.

By: Lauren Pacheco