Unconscious Projection

It takes deep self-awareness to start recognizing how often we project our unconscious bias and insecurities onto others. Our values, perceptions, self-worth and morals are interconnected with every interaction and relationship we have (new or old). I, too, am guilty of unconscious projection. It takes a lot of practice and awareness to move into a more expansive place of self-actualization.

I was involved in a mindful meditation workshop recently and one of the exercises I participated in led me to a profound finding. I was asked to look at a light on the ceiling. Then, I had to describe it. How does it feel? What do others think about it? What does it yearn for? What is its purpose in life? This seems pretty abstract as it is a light we are talking about, it doesn’t have feelings! However, this is what I realized. The lens I view the world comes from a very deep rooted empathic focus. I see pain in others. I feel deeply and I am compassion driven. As you can imagine, many of my answers included the need for self-acceptance, worthiness, love, healing and feelings of loneliness- though not alone. When I truly sat in the discomfort of my answers, it was clear to me that my traumas, life experience and healing journey has inevitably shaped the way in which I view the world. 

What are some of your unconscious biases? I encourage you to sit and think, reflect, and be in the quiet of these thoughts. I hope you’re able to come to some profound findings. 

Bringing awareness to this tender piece of the healing puzzle is truly a great way to open up to a more welcoming place of peace from within. I tend to lean into my spiritual guidance from above to steer me in the right direction. I pray endlessly. I ask for forgiveness, for myself often. I sit in a quiet space and allow my emotions to flow freely. I honour my mistakes with grace and humility. The path to healing hurts, it’s uncomfortable facing the demons in my closet. 

I admire you. The tenacity and willingness to push forward. Set your intentions everyday.  

The energy to take on another day with LOVE in the driver’s seat is how I fuel my day to day living. 

By Lauren Pacheco